This Sunday in class, I was reminded of a problem that I think plagues many churches today: Being pressured to be active and get involved.
Whit Pennock, was mentioning a fellow that came to him feeling guilty that he was not more involved in the church. According to Whit this fellow worked full time, plus overtime, and was a single father (if I heard correctly) with two fairly young kids.
Having been raised in the church, I can immediately recall countless droves of sermons, classes, and prayers where the basic point being stressed was that you are not fulfilling your obligations as a Christian if you are not:
- Volunteering for service at your local congregation
- Evangelizing at work
- Mowing the lawns of all the elderly couples/widows
- Evangelizing in your local area through door-knocking campaigns, etc
- Teaching class
- Evangelizing at the gym
- Leading prayers
- Evangelizing your neighbors
- Leading singing
- Evangelizing!!!
For many years, I struggled with feeling guilty that I was not scheduling out my evenings during the week for Bible studies with those Jehovah’s Witnesses that came just the week before, or a random person at HEB, or the gas station.
It is evident in scripture that the primary responsibility of any husband or wife is to serve their spouse, and for any father or mother, to serve their children. What good is someone accomplishing if the are serving someone else, through evangelism, and neglecting the needs of their family?
Let me remind you that a Paul says that a husband and a wife are to serve each other, and that parents, most certainly, serve their children.
If we neglect our families are we not doing as James said, telling our kids or spouse “be warm and filled” and yet doing nothing to fulfill their physical, emotional and spiritual needs?
Fortunately, Whit’s response to the fellow that felt guilty for not being more involved was “what part of working and taking care of your family is not kingdom work?”
I barely heard the entire scenario before I started to pull up a passage that jumps to my mind often when I hear the indictment “You need to be more involved.”
For what does a man get in all his labor and in his striving with which he labors under the sun? Because all his days his task is painful and grievous; even at night his mind does not rest. This too is vanity.
There is nothing better for a man than to eat and drink and tell himself that his labor is good. This also I have seen that it is from the hand of God.
For who can eat and who can have enjoyment without Him?
Ecclesiastes 2: 22-25
In this chapter, Solomon laments over the travail and grief of labor, where it is possible for a person to work and for someone else to enjoy the fruit of their labor.
Here, though, Solomon says that the very ability to enjoy the fruits of your labor is a gift from God.
In other words, having the ability to enjoy your earnings, your spouse, your kids, your family, even your food, is a gift from the hand of God. This also means that he gives us the time to enjoy it.
Solomon then reiterates the sentiment in Chapter 3: 12-13
I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good in one’s lifetime; moreover, that every man who eats and drinks sees good in all his labor—it is the gift of God.
Living as a Christian and giving praise to God, is the primary work of a Christian.
And don’t get me started on the whole “The Great Commission is For All” dogma. Too often the church expects everyone to act as if they were anointed for service of the Gospel as were the Apostles and some of the disciples of the early church.
I think that the church has pressured it’s laity unjustly to get involved. There are stages in a person’s life when they have more time or less time, and the church has not filtered the message to the appropriate ages, nor qualified the message so that the congregation does not feel convicted for living their justifiably, busy lives.
However, as is all too common, what is preached from the pulpit is often not exercised by leadership, and that is fortunate in this case. Most of the time the leaders of the congregation go home to take naps on Sunday afternoon, just like the rest of us, and if you listen closely to their conversations with others, they are often more sympathetic to the circumstances individuals and families.